Playing Games with Children 101

I've got another game review to post, but have decided to start a thread to share some general tips on how to grow better gamers.  Please feel free to comment with your suggestions, and I'll add them to the list. 


Isaiah was obviously having a great time.

• Play for fun, not to win!  If there is a cooperative option for your game, play it often.  This helps younger players learn game mechanics and strategies.  If you're playing a competitive game, be a gracious winner and a grateful loser.  Be humble!

• Take turns.  One of the most important things playing games can teach is how to wait for your turn.  Let your gaming group (especially children) take turns when choosing which game to play.  Try to express the importance of everyone getting to play the game they want to play, and be sure to get excited when its their turn to choose.


• Help kids make decisions.  Sometimes children don't see all of the options that are available to them.  Show them alternative choices and let them decide their moves.  Let them change their mind and "undo" their decisions while they are learning.


• Reduce distractions.  Turn off the TV.  Play some quiet music if your game requires a lot of concentration, or some louder music if you're playing a party game.  Take other electronic devices off of the table...except for cameras...take lots of photos of your time together.


• Don't talk trash.  Many games and sports are inundated with players who try to intimidate their opponents.  Teach your children a better way to play while they are young.  Poking fun at other players is acceptable when they have a developed emotional IQ; not when they are younglings. 


• Focus on winning strategies.  Kids will often choose whatever option seems most advantageous at any given moment.  Help them realize their "long game" by asking what their goals are. 


• ENCOURAGE!!!  I can't stress this enough.  Children want to know that they have done well, even when they lose.  Constructive criticism is important, but nothing is better than letting your child know that they are loved and appreciated. 


• Thank your child for playing with you.  There are lots of other things your kids could be doing.  Let them know that you enjoyed spending time with them, and that you look forward to playing again.  Place a high value on the time you've spent together. 


• Plan your next game time.  If your child had a good time, you're doing something right.  They'll likely want to play again, and again, and again.  You might not have a lot of free time, so be intentional and make plans for when you'll play again.  One of the worst things you can tell a child is that you don't have time for them.  Scheduling game time gives them something to look forward to, and can help foster patience and planning.